Welcome to Chisipite Senior School
Chisipite Senior School opened its doors in 1954 to cater for the students leaving the Junior School which was founded as a farm school in 1929. With 2 members of staff and 48 girls, Chisipite Senior School became the first inter-denominational private girls' secondary school in Central Africa. It is now one of the premier, multicultural girls' schools in the country.
ATS PARENTS NEWSLETTER TERM 2 2016
P O Box CH 574, Chisipite, Harare
04-497708 / 0773-688063
Dear ATS Parent
A mother was going out for tea with a friend, accompanied by her young child. As she was keen to
assure her friend that she was a good parent, she sat down with her child beforehand and reminded
him how he must always be polite, always say “Please” and “Thank you”. The time with her friend
went beautifully and her young boy acted impeccably. The hostess offered her some more tea and
cakes which she declined with exaggerated politeness and then the hostess offered the young boy
some more cake. “No,” he replied bluntly. His mother tilted her head and gave him the motherly
stare followed by the somewhat more stern and menacing, “No what, Johnny...?” His response was
quick and heartfelt. “No fear!”
The one thing that I am persuaded the most about parents nowadays is that they have a serious fear
of saying “No” to their children, be they toddlers, children or teenagers. Maybe it is because they are
scared of being seen in a bad light by their children or maybe even by their friends whom they too
are trying to impress. Maybe they fear the tears and the tantrums that might follow a “No”, the sulks
and the silence, the rants and the rebellion, the accusations, the screaming, the pouting, the
fluttering eyelashes, the protruding bottom lip, the “Pleeeeeee-ase?” before the age-old “My friends’
parents let them”, the “You don’t want me to have fun”, the “That’s just typical of you!” The fact is,
the role of a parent is not to be popular, “cool” or “hip” – it is to be responsible, forward-thinking,
wise. We must not be struck down by the “disease to please”.
Understand this: Children want boundaries and need boundaries. They respect a “No” far more than
a “Yeah, whatever!” It does help to give a good reason, beyond the standard “Because I said so”. It
does help to explain it all beforehand, so they do not need to ask, to avoid you saying “No”. “No”
does not need to be “No way!” or “Not in a million years” or “Not when I am alive”. “No” can just be
“No.” No, you cannot go to the nightclub at your age. No, you cannot drive the Mercedes. No, you
are not going to that school just because your friends are going there. No, you will not use that
language in our house. No, you may not wear that dress. No, you may not have the latest iphone.
No, you cannot skip our family visit to go to the cinema. No, you must face the consequences of your
misbehaviour at school yourself. No, I will not write you an excuse note for skipping sport.
You are not being a negative person by saying “No”; you are actually being positive by preparing
them for a future – they need to grasp that they do not, and will not, always get what they want.
Your job is to set the limit, not to control how your child feels about it or reacts to it. And when you
say “No”, make sure you mean it. You have the responsibility to raise your child the best way. You
are the authority. Parenthood is not a dictatorship but neither is it a democracy. It will mean you
must say “No” at times for the good of your child.
Parents, please: Have no fear to say “No”, politely, respectfully, firmly. Thank you.
Do note the ATS Parents Association have their AGM on 11th June at 10:00 at the ATS offices.
Strength to you as you fulfil your responsibilities.
Executive Director ATS
INTERHOUSE PUBLIC SPEAKING
STAFF AND BOARD COCKTAIL PARTY
On the evening of May 10th the Staff and Board enjoyed a cocktail party where they had the opportunity to get ot know each other better. The evening was most enjoyable and there was definitely an atmosphere of camaraderie and joviality. Below are some photos from the event.